Finally I got time to mesh and solve my imaginary problem. I will not dive into meshing since it is a chapter on its own. I used a tetrahedron mesh as standard as it gets. The work flow is simple; get a CAD model, get material data, mesh it, add supports and loads and finally get some results, either by stresses or displacements.
My results for a small load of 1.2Kg shows that the T tube element will suffer most when we sit on it. I would say that if it breaks it will be there. Ok this case is more then evident since the only thing holding my weight is this connection.
But will it wobble with 120Kg weight?